My Talk With Our Agency

This may be a repost to some as I sent this out in an email, but one of the reasons I started blogging was to keep a journal of sorts during  our “waiting” process.

 Afternoon Everyone,

Fred and I both feel like everyone of you is walking through the adoption journey with us, therefore, we feel like you would and should know where we stand as of today. 

We are quickly approaching our 1 year date of "waiting" (November 3rd).  While we aren't worried about who our birthmom will be, where she'll come from, how open the adoption will be (as I've finally let that one go), or if the baby will be perfect; we are a little anxious on when our little one is going to arrive.  I think we're just "ready" for the next stage to begin.  We are continuing to pray that God will comfort us and calm our anxious hearts, minds and our arms!

I did call the agency this morning as we had a few questions as to what does happens IF we do hit a year and we don't have a "match" with a birthmom.  You know that planner in me just can't sit by and wait.  Basically, we have to go through an abridged home study.  They'll just go over anything that's changed in the last year and have us resubmit a few things.

Apparently, we did such a good job on our original Profile Book (the book that the birthmom's look at to get their first glance into the families that they would like to meet and possible "match" up with) that we don't need to create a new one, unless we just want to.  We also completed a questionnaire on the child's background (i.e. age of child, birthparent information, prenatal care, drug/alcohol history, criminal history, and racial/ethic background) that we'd be comfortable with.  At this point, Fred and I feel very comfortable with our original decisions.  For us these were probably two of the hardest and longest aspects of the process.  So, I was very happy to hear that we didn’t need to re-do either one of those.

So, as always the main question is.....HOW MUCH LONGER?  The average "wait" time from approval is 12-18 months. Now that doesn't mean we won’t be “matched” earlier or that it we won't have to wait a few months longer.

What do we do now you ask?  PRAY, wait and stay busy.  Pray that our minds, our hearts, our home and our daily hours are filled with Christ and positive thoughts and that we don't fall into Satan's trap to self-doubt and believing that we are never going to have a baby.   We want to continue to trust God in everything we do and we want to enjoy this time.

I wish I could express to each and everyone of you how much you mean to Fred and I and how your support, your encouragement, your prayers, funny stories, and promises of babysitting :-) have meant to us.  I wish that everyone had family/friends like we do!!  We can't wait to introduce this little one to you all.

**By the way Fred is still praying with all that is in him for TWINS.   He says with my management and organization skills it would be a breeze!!**  WHAT???